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One of the things I do as a coach is to help people clarify what it is that they truly want to accomplish in the world, what will satisfy them and make them successful both in their professional life and in their personal relationships and life. The professional and personal are really very intertwined and forward movement in one impacts the other, challenges in one can derail the other. One of the questions that comes up in this endeavor is determining what “success” means to people. It’s a word that is thrown about a great deal but many people, when I ask them, what success would look like or what aspects of it are the most important for them, look at me blankly or have some stock answer that they’ve never questioned. And yet most people are striving for ‘success”. Trying to attain it runs their lives. It is difficult to reach a destination if you don’t know where it is on the map.
In order to address this and to give people a map that will give them the results they want on their own particular road to success, I am offering a series of six presentations designed to get you ON TRACK with your greatest success. Often people feel that they are missing the mark in their life, in what is possible for them and their business. They may feel they are just spinning their wheels and are frustrated and not getting ahead. In working with clients, I find that when you, your life, and your business are connected to your natural talents, enlivened by a larger vision and following a strategy the doorway to results springs open.
So what does success mean or look like to you? For many people it includes a financial component – do you have a figure in mind that is a benchmark for you in this area or is it ill defined and vague? The more clarity you have around it the more possible it is for you to reach that goal. It may sound obvious but often when someone defines it clearly they are then able to see the progress they are making rather than having Success be an ever-receding horizon that they never reach. If you define success as including providing for your family, having enough leisure time to enjoy them and experiencing forward movement in your business – you may already have a level of success that you can acknowledge and enjoy. Or if some aspect of that picture has not been reached then you have defined the area, say leisure time with your family that needs work. If you contribute to that aspect you will be furthering your goal of success. And when you do allow yourself to feel a level o9f success it contributes to your confidence and trust in the future. It’s a stepping-stone to further success. Success is a very individual thing. There is no reason that we need to rob ourselves of the enjoyment that comes with accomplishment and success because we haven’t asked the question “What does it really mean to ME?’ Not society, not through commercials, friends or any other influence but YOU.

Let me tell you a quick story about a client, I’ll call her Elizabeth. Elizabeth is a very talented woman who is talented in a number of different areas. Here professional life had been a series of involvements or businesses in which she would focus on one of these talents and gain some level of success. But then she would get bored and move onto another talent. When we started working a few months ago she was thoroughly confused and felt like a failure because she “couldn’t stick with anything”. Over a few months of working with this she has come to the recognition that going about her professional life in this way has given her a lot of diverse experience and developed her skill in all of these areas. Through our collaboration she is now developing a business that uses all of those talents. Her new business has a full range of services to offer her clients and she will not end up being bored as she has the opportunity to express her many talents. When she saw that she was holding her experience as a judgment rather than seeing the success she had gained and developed along the way she was able to see a whole new possibility that has allowed her to feel “successful” now and move forward with more confidence.
This topic of defining success is only one of the things I will be teaching in these presentations that I am calling A Sort Course in the Skill of Success. They will be held at Shin, an Integrative Wellness Center at 2225 Biscayne Blvd. 5th Floor Starting Wednesday Oct 29th and then every Wednesday, except November 26th from 7-8 or 8:30pm. Call me for details and to register 305-534-1119